So to follow-up on my last very angry post, I think that we've determined that it was all a power-play on the CDO's part. Aaron talked to a friend at the mid-career level, and that's the only explanation they could come up with, since his whole proposal for changing his schedule seemed pretty reasonable. And unfortunately there is nothing he can do about it since he's such a newbie. So that sucks. He is still exploring other options in order to at least get the Friday before the wedding off, so hopefully one of those works out since he'd really like to avoid getting any formal complaints or anything on his file, and since we'd at least like to make the rehearsal dinner.
I am wondering now if there is a system in place for people to review their CDO's? Because I really think there should be, if there isn't.
EDIT: Update - I think the CDO felt bad about the whole "2 weeks paternity leave" thing, because she decided to go ahead and let Aaron change his schedule. That's enough to bury the hatchet to me! Yay guilt.